nerdherd, i understand what you are saying.
by NO means am i an apple fanboy! i adopted the G1 on T-Mobile when it first came out, and it eventually was plagued with lag from the updated software that it received. So naturally, "lag" was the first thing i tested for on the Droid when i got my hands on it and it WAS there.
You say your friends iphone lags, was it the 3gs, which would be equipped with a faster processor than the older iphones? if not, then give the 3gs a shot.
like i said before, i am not an apple fanboy. if i thought that the Droid delivered better than the iphone, then i'd sell my iphone today and get the Droid.