Maybe I've been living under a rock, but am I the only one surprised by the fact that some people text hundreds of messages per day? Let's say it takes an average of 1 minute to send a message. This equates to multiple hours each day literally doing nothing but thumbing your phone. Holy crap. People do this?
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[citation][nom]jsschneidereit[/nom]Being a tyrant also isn't being a parent. IMO[/citation]
My friend, you have some serious misconceptions of parenting if you think taking a cell phone away for a time is being "tyrannical." Especially if mommy or daddy is paying for it.
My friend, you have some serious misconceptions of parenting if you think taking a cell phone away for a time is being "tyrannical." Especially if mommy or daddy is paying for it.
Parents must know what the kids are doing online and off. You can monitor and control the internet useage AND NOW...you can monitor cell phones! visit www.mynetshepherd.com for more information.
[citation][nom]jdog2076[/nom]Maybe I've been living under a rock, but am I the only one surprised by the fact that some people text hundreds of messages per day? Let's say it takes an average of 1 minute to send a message. This equates to multiple hours each day literally doing nothing but thumbing your phone. Holy crap. People do this?[/citation]
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[citation][nom]jdog2076[/nom]My friend, you have some serious misconceptions of parenting if you think taking a cell phone away for a time is being "tyrannical." Especially if mommy or daddy is paying for it.[/citation]
Thank you. I knew I wasn't the only one who thought that. Funny how that sentiment gets negative ratings...
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[citation][nom]jdog2076[/nom]My friend, you have some serious misconceptions of parenting if you think taking a cell phone away for a time is being "tyrannical." Especially if mommy or daddy is paying for it.[/citation]
Thank you. I knew I wasn't the only one who thought that. Funny how that sentiment gets negative ratings...
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[citation][nom]rdawise[/nom]Am I the only one that thinks this is bull? The answer to your teen not texting so much...take their phone away. Come on be a parent.I go back to my youth, where on school nights I wasn't allowed to play my nintendo on school nights. At the time I though it was unfair, but then again I never had sleep deprivation, anxiety or whatever else health professionals want to give you a pill for. Are parents really that afraid of their kids to not tell them no?Last time I checked, the simple acting of thinking to much can give you anxiety as well as sleep deprivation. Should we not allow teens to think next? Just be parents and say no.I wholly disagree with you. Being a tryant is being a parent. As most often quoted by parnts, "This isn't a democracy, it's a dictatorship". I am not saying at the point of physical, emotional, or social abuse, but I am saying you word should be law in your own home. If a parent says no, then no. Is that being tyrannical, yes and that is the point. The teen might feel opressed, but are they, no. You should control your own home. It's funny how so many parents complain about government intervention and how "the government shouldn't raise my kid". Yet we rely on things like the FCC to control content so we don't. Oh well...[/citation]
I agree with you that if the phone causes a problem (sleep depravation etc) then the parent should take away the phone... however, there is a difference between authoritative and authoritarian parenting style. And since when is communicating with friends something that parents should be censoring? ...regardless, the parent is probably the one that gave them the phone anyway, and therefore caused the problem.
I agree with you that if the phone causes a problem (sleep depravation etc) then the parent should take away the phone... however, there is a difference between authoritative and authoritarian parenting style. And since when is communicating with friends something that parents should be censoring? ...regardless, the parent is probably the one that gave them the phone anyway, and therefore caused the problem.
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[citation][nom]jsschneidereit[/nom]...regardless, the parent is probably the one that gave them the phone anyway, and therefore caused the problem.[/citation]
So, your saying if I gave my kid a car (which I won't, I will make him work for it a bit) and that he gets drunk and kills someone on the road, that it is my fault he was dumb enough to get drunk? Even if I had told him several times drinking is bad?
Of course I would take responsibility for him... but he would also have to bear the consequences of his actions.
Your not trying to raise a child, your trying to raise an ADULT.
So, your saying if I gave my kid a car (which I won't, I will make him work for it a bit) and that he gets drunk and kills someone on the road, that it is my fault he was dumb enough to get drunk? Even if I had told him several times drinking is bad?
Of course I would take responsibility for him... but he would also have to bear the consequences of his actions.
Your not trying to raise a child, your trying to raise an ADULT.
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I text but I keep it under 300 a month, usually well under that. This is a very valid point that will be addressed with other recent phenomenon like the huge dependence people have on the internet today. Seriously, I know it is awesome but so much real-life important issues get ignored because of the distraction of the internet.
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[citation][nom]the_one111[/nom]Your not trying to raise a child, your trying to raise an ADULT.[/citation]
Nicely done.
Kids need to learn from their mistakes, and will never learn if they don't make any.
I used to play a popular MMO (can you guess?) and realized that I completely neglected the rest of my life for years. I had to live that lesson to learn it.
Now I read educational and entertaining articles instead and play better games.
People have been saying that this or that will ruin the world for millenniums now. We're still here.
This changes the way we interact as a society, but that may not be a bad thing. Though personally I prefer speech in many scenarios, I've found that text can be easier. I can type faster than I can talk, and I can read faster than people speak.
Nicely done.
Kids need to learn from their mistakes, and will never learn if they don't make any.
I used to play a popular MMO (can you guess?) and realized that I completely neglected the rest of my life for years. I had to live that lesson to learn it.
Now I read educational and entertaining articles instead and play better games.
People have been saying that this or that will ruin the world for millenniums now. We're still here.
This changes the way we interact as a society, but that may not be a bad thing. Though personally I prefer speech in many scenarios, I've found that text can be easier. I can type faster than I can talk, and I can read faster than people speak.
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[citation][nom]jdog2076[/nom]My friend, you have some serious misconceptions of parenting if you think taking a cell phone away for a time is being "tyrannical." Especially if mommy or daddy is paying for it.[/citation]
Texting May Be Harming Teens I don't think taking anything away is tyrannical. If your teen is enough of a dumb ass that it doesn't understand when not to misuse something you shouldn't have given them the f*cking cell phone.
[citation][nom]the_one111[/nom]So, your saying if I gave my kid a car (which I won't, I will make him work for it a bit) and that he gets drunk and kills someone on the road, that it is my fault he was dumb enough to get drunk? Even if I had told him several times drinking is bad?Of course I would take responsibility for him... but he would also have to bear the consequences of his actions.Your not trying to raise a child, your trying to raise an ADULT.[/citation]
What the f*ck are you talking about man? how the f*ck does drunk driving relate to talking to one's f*cking friends? The problem is that parent's don't understand how to raise their goddamned children and then they misuse their fucking phone and their parents get upset about this shit and it's f*cking annoying... and I 100% agree with you about buying your own shit and not your parents... I bought my first two cars and had them sold out from under me by my PARENTS.
I'm sure I've committed this somewhere in this forum, but people are hypocritical, including parents, it's fucking annoying, if you give your stupid ass kid a phone, expect them to fucking use it. that's all i was saying, not fucking likening texting to fucking drunk driving.
I apologize for any spelling or grammatical errors.
What are the rules for "colorful metaphors" in this place?
Texting May Be Harming Teens I don't think taking anything away is tyrannical. If your teen is enough of a dumb ass that it doesn't understand when not to misuse something you shouldn't have given them the f*cking cell phone.
[citation][nom]the_one111[/nom]So, your saying if I gave my kid a car (which I won't, I will make him work for it a bit) and that he gets drunk and kills someone on the road, that it is my fault he was dumb enough to get drunk? Even if I had told him several times drinking is bad?Of course I would take responsibility for him... but he would also have to bear the consequences of his actions.Your not trying to raise a child, your trying to raise an ADULT.[/citation]
What the f*ck are you talking about man? how the f*ck does drunk driving relate to talking to one's f*cking friends? The problem is that parent's don't understand how to raise their goddamned children and then they misuse their fucking phone and their parents get upset about this shit and it's f*cking annoying... and I 100% agree with you about buying your own shit and not your parents... I bought my first two cars and had them sold out from under me by my PARENTS.
I'm sure I've committed this somewhere in this forum, but people are hypocritical, including parents, it's fucking annoying, if you give your stupid ass kid a phone, expect them to fucking use it. that's all i was saying, not fucking likening texting to fucking drunk driving.
I apologize for any spelling or grammatical errors.
What are the rules for "colorful metaphors" in this place?
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[citation][nom]JamesDenton[/nom]Ok, so people are communicating, losing sleep over it, and that is now considered a danger? Would it be any better if they were simply calling each other on the phone, or msging using a laptop? or just talking? I think the shrinks need to keep their nose out of other peoples assholes, and worry about their own behavior. At this rate, everything is now considered some kind of a sickness. Psychologists are trying to classify bitterness as a syndrome, not being happy 24/7 is now a sickness too, called depression (I mean, it can't be that the world is so messed up that there's simply nothing to be smiling about right? kids are dying in every country, there isn't enough food to go around, murders and rapes are happening every few seconds, our presidents are legally retarded, and the people are constantly oppressed, but if you're not happy, then you're sick and have a depression, and need drugs! right?), If you enjoy reading and studying rather than drinking, killing your brain, smoking, and trying to get laid 24/7, well that means you have Asperger's syndrome, and need drugs that will help you become more docile, and stupid like the rest of the society... When most of the Field Medals and Nobel Prizes, every single invention and discovery is made by an Asperger's syndrome individual (at least that's what he would have been classified)...[/citation]
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how about parents get off there @$$es and tell there kids to stop texting while driving. there must be over 100 deaths this year globally because people try to text while driving.
What this goes to show is that anything in excess can be bad for you. You can kill yourself drinking too much water.
I think parents are responsible for watching out for their children. Help them to learn to use anything responsibly, texting included.
People need to put down the phone and unplug once in awhile. Round yourself out as a person. You don't have to be available 24/7 (except parents, as there's no rest for the weary). I think people forget that mankind existed without internet and telephones, or texting.
Taking a break is not only good for the soul, it helps you gain perspective. A perspective that these are tools to keep in touch, to make life easier, instead of becoming a lifestyle too many teens are making it.
I think parents are responsible for watching out for their children. Help them to learn to use anything responsibly, texting included.
People need to put down the phone and unplug once in awhile. Round yourself out as a person. You don't have to be available 24/7 (except parents, as there's no rest for the weary). I think people forget that mankind existed without internet and telephones, or texting.
Taking a break is not only good for the soul, it helps you gain perspective. A perspective that these are tools to keep in touch, to make life easier, instead of becoming a lifestyle too many teens are making it.
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[citation][nom]tenor77[/nom]What this goes to show is that anything in excess can be bad for you. You can kill yourself drinking too much water.[/citation]
Exactly...I can see their quote from above and I just want to stick in all kinds of words for the causes and associated effects and say well DUH!
Exactly...I can see their quote from above and I just want to stick in all kinds of words for the causes and associated effects and say well DUH!
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[citation][nom]jsschneidereit[/nom]...regardless, the parent is probably the one that gave them the phone anyway, and therefore caused the problem.[/citation]
That is a correct statement. The parents gave them the phone and they have the right to take it away. What is your point? That even though the parent bought the phone and pays the monthly bill that they have no right to the phone anymore since they gave it to the child? They are supposed to hand it over and just back away and stay out of their children's business?
Let me guess. You are one of the whiny brats that treat their parents like crap if you don't get your way? You expect everything to be handed to you without any sort of responsibility coming from you. You are the exact problem that is the poster child for your generation.
My daughter minds me. You know why? I am her parent, not her friend. We will hang out and have fun and laugh and joke around but when it comes time for me to be the PARENT and for her to be the CHILD guess what, she will fall in line. If you think that sounds harsh…tough. Move out of your parent’s house and live on your own. Give back all the electronics, the car, etc that they gave you. Raise yourself. Be responsible for only yourself. Try and make it through life without having a GOOD, MORAL parent to steer you in the correct direction.
You are an idiot and I blame your parents 100% for that. They were unable to step up to the plate and control you and they let you get away with murder because they did not want to appear to be the bad guy in your life. They have been brainwashed into believing that they cannot ever do anything against a child because then the child will grow up to be a gun toting thug that takes out anger on society. The problem is that by not controlling your children, you are going to raise that exact thug you are afraid of them becoming.
“Spare the rod, spoil the child” is not a phrase that means to go beat your children. It means be the parent. Be the firm parent. Be the authoritative parent. There is no difference between authoritative and authoritarian parenting style. A real parent must be willing to be both. Your children are just that, children. A child has no experience in life whatsoever. It’s the parent’s responsibility to point out the shortcomings of the child and correct them just as pointing out the accomplishments and praise them.
I will always censor my child’s communication with her friends. To not monitor your child’s life is stupid. We live in a completely different world now. There have always been terrible things that happened in our world but as generations progress, the horrible existences in life become more and more mainstream and you have to always be on your toes to protect your children.
To sum all this up. To all you whiny little bastards. Stop being the little thugs that society wants you to become. You want to be treated like an adult then grow up some. Start behaving like an adult. Prove that you are responsible for your life and are willing to make the correct choices and not follow the crowd or what society tells you to do. Stop expecting your parents to be your friend. Parents, stop trying to be a friend to your children. They have peers to be their friends. Your job is to monitor and to steer your children into choosing the correct friends and how to be friends with those people and treat them correctly and morally.
The moment you think you know more about life than your parents, then find the door. Leave everything that they provide behind and try and make it on your own. Do not look to them to bail you out. Suck it up and put your big boy pants on if you think you are so knowledgeable. I am quite certain public school has taught you enough for you to know which button to push at McDonald’s for supersizing.
That is a correct statement. The parents gave them the phone and they have the right to take it away. What is your point? That even though the parent bought the phone and pays the monthly bill that they have no right to the phone anymore since they gave it to the child? They are supposed to hand it over and just back away and stay out of their children's business?
Let me guess. You are one of the whiny brats that treat their parents like crap if you don't get your way? You expect everything to be handed to you without any sort of responsibility coming from you. You are the exact problem that is the poster child for your generation.
My daughter minds me. You know why? I am her parent, not her friend. We will hang out and have fun and laugh and joke around but when it comes time for me to be the PARENT and for her to be the CHILD guess what, she will fall in line. If you think that sounds harsh…tough. Move out of your parent’s house and live on your own. Give back all the electronics, the car, etc that they gave you. Raise yourself. Be responsible for only yourself. Try and make it through life without having a GOOD, MORAL parent to steer you in the correct direction.
You are an idiot and I blame your parents 100% for that. They were unable to step up to the plate and control you and they let you get away with murder because they did not want to appear to be the bad guy in your life. They have been brainwashed into believing that they cannot ever do anything against a child because then the child will grow up to be a gun toting thug that takes out anger on society. The problem is that by not controlling your children, you are going to raise that exact thug you are afraid of them becoming.
“Spare the rod, spoil the child” is not a phrase that means to go beat your children. It means be the parent. Be the firm parent. Be the authoritative parent. There is no difference between authoritative and authoritarian parenting style. A real parent must be willing to be both. Your children are just that, children. A child has no experience in life whatsoever. It’s the parent’s responsibility to point out the shortcomings of the child and correct them just as pointing out the accomplishments and praise them.
I will always censor my child’s communication with her friends. To not monitor your child’s life is stupid. We live in a completely different world now. There have always been terrible things that happened in our world but as generations progress, the horrible existences in life become more and more mainstream and you have to always be on your toes to protect your children.
To sum all this up. To all you whiny little bastards. Stop being the little thugs that society wants you to become. You want to be treated like an adult then grow up some. Start behaving like an adult. Prove that you are responsible for your life and are willing to make the correct choices and not follow the crowd or what society tells you to do. Stop expecting your parents to be your friend. Parents, stop trying to be a friend to your children. They have peers to be their friends. Your job is to monitor and to steer your children into choosing the correct friends and how to be friends with those people and treat them correctly and morally.
The moment you think you know more about life than your parents, then find the door. Leave everything that they provide behind and try and make it on your own. Do not look to them to bail you out. Suck it up and put your big boy pants on if you think you are so knowledgeable. I am quite certain public school has taught you enough for you to know which button to push at McDonald’s for supersizing.
you're crazy whomever wrote this article!
What a ridiculous statement! I'm sure the majority of them don't even have a cell phone, and those who do certainly don't get 80+ text messages per day!
Perhaps research and stats come from a special group of people, but there are plenty of teens still living their lives calling people, or using the internet to mail. I'm certain some individuals get 80+ text messages per day, but that group is definitely not the "average of American teens"!
What a ridiculous statement! I'm sure the majority of them don't even have a cell phone, and those who do certainly don't get 80+ text messages per day!
Perhaps research and stats come from a special group of people, but there are plenty of teens still living their lives calling people, or using the internet to mail. I'm certain some individuals get 80+ text messages per day, but that group is definitely not the "average of American teens"!
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I call BS. I'm 19, I goto college and whatnot and I use less than 250 texts (that is 125 in, 125 out) each month. Sure, I'm one of the lighter text-ers, but come on - no way the average teen is doing 80-100 a day.
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Maybe the numbers are exagerated... I generally agree with the majority that parents need to have better control of their children's text habits... but, I have a different question:
WHY THE FUCK DOES A 13-15 YEAR OLD HAVE A FUCKING CELL PHONE TO BEGIN WITH? For that matter, why the fuck can't a 16-20 year old buy their OWN cell phone? Parents don't make the lazy fuckers work anymore? I had my first job at like 14.
I've seen parents hand over cell phones to children who are like 9. Why would anyone in their right mind do such a thing? Because they begged? "Mommy, Daddy, pah-pleeease" with a sad face makes you give a freaking 9 year old a cell phone? Obviously no good will come of the decision, anyone who's not retarded would recognize that, and parents give in anyway? Are these idiots really trying to be their children's friends?
WHY THE FUCK DOES A 13-15 YEAR OLD HAVE A FUCKING CELL PHONE TO BEGIN WITH? For that matter, why the fuck can't a 16-20 year old buy their OWN cell phone? Parents don't make the lazy fuckers work anymore? I had my first job at like 14.
I've seen parents hand over cell phones to children who are like 9. Why would anyone in their right mind do such a thing? Because they begged? "Mommy, Daddy, pah-pleeease" with a sad face makes you give a freaking 9 year old a cell phone? Obviously no good will come of the decision, anyone who's not retarded would recognize that, and parents give in anyway? Are these idiots really trying to be their children's friends?
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There was a story on this the other night on the news. The answer they came up with is that it's too early to tell what effect it has. There were people who suggested the texting helps with literacy and creativity.
It just depends on who you ask.
It's illegal to text while driving here, unfortunately you can't be pulled over for it.
It just depends on who you ask.
It's illegal to text while driving here, unfortunately you can't be pulled over for it.
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