You seems to have 2 questions: How to hook up, and how to control.
Hook up: Just plug it in, I don't understand the problem. Pick a HDMI port on the TV.
Control: Already discussed by members. Hopefully the manual buttons on the TV does it otherwise you will have to get a remote substitute or hell buy one from Sony? If this is an out of production TV I believe there is a place on the Net which sells old, original remote, GOOGLE is your best friend.