[citation][nom]SirGCal[/nom]Actually, I found the better sites, like eHarmony actually work if you're honest with yourself and the questionnaires... Once I broke down and did a no BS profile for myself, it took about 4 months to find my new wife. And we are matched so well it's almost unimaginable. And only now do I understand what real love is, and you can't explain it to someone who never knew and I was married for 13 years before this one and 'thought' I was in love.That's another story...Anyhow; Sure, it might have just been luck and coincidence... But I'll give them the benefit of the doubt. Plus we are not the only couples that I know who were successful with this method. The biggest difference then other sites is it is not a 'pick a picture' type system. You are given potential matches to your profile. If you weren't honest, or they weren't honest, it won't ever work. If you really are painfully honest with yourself, it might work for you.Or it could all be bunk and the lucky people like myself were simply that, lucky... But I spent thousands with other matching services, online and off, after my divorce with no quality results and very little money (~120 if I remember) to eHarmony and it blew all of the others away with my results. But again, to be honest, I could have just been lucky. But then, I personally know a lot of couples that were 'lucky' if that is indeed the case...If it didn't work for you, I truly am sorry. But I wounder, were you really honest?Back to the topic though; If they algorithms are an industry secret (obviously, they aren't going to publish them), how can anyone really say how it does or doesn't work? They can't hand it to the MIT algorithm destruction (so to speak) group to break it down and see what fails or how it compares to other similar company type algorithms. So how can they really say anything about it? It's easy to say 'there is no evidence' simply because it's a trade secret and not published information they can break down. Obviously this is so other companies don't steal their ideas (patents only protect so far... hence secret formulas in food products and recipes as another good example). Without the entire algorithms to analyze, this whole thing is simply another speculation anyhow. Plus, they state what is and isn't compared... What site(s) are they specifically talking about? They don't even mention that. But it sounds like eHarmony WAS NOT one of them:For example, the sites ignore data from a couple’s "interaction style and ability to navigate stressful circumstances" - information that cannot be analyzed with the data that is provided by the individuals using such services.I remember parts of eHarmony's questionnaire and it did have questions pertaining to these types of life situations. Infact, the one thing that caught my eye about it, other then the fact it took forever to complete the over 250 questions, was how detailed it actually was and the extremely personal questions they did ask. Lieing or stretching the truth of yourself would also be extremely easy. That's why I had to really do it and be painfully honest with myself. But that's when it also worked.Was it luck or the real deal? Honestly, I'll probably never know. But I'm eternally grateful to eHarmony either way. Match, Yahoo, etc. never came close... But I consider myself one of the luckiest people alive to have really found my soul-mate; and it would never have happened if it wasn't for eHarmony. That simple fact is indisputable.[/citation]
This exactly (minus the previous 13 year relationship) - I found my wife on EH and it was literally "click" within the first several minutes. You get out of it what you put into it. I don't know about the algorithms, but I know it worked for us.
It's amazing how these sites even exist.
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