beayn, you make legitimate points about the Apple fans who seem to have "drunk the Kool-Aid." There are very few things in life as annoying as arrogance, regardless of whether it comes from individuals, companies, or governments.
I find the discussion of usability and user experience to be an interesting one, and one that I would like to distinguish from that of "features."
For example, if a piece of software doesn't let me do task "X"---even if it is something "obviously" useful, or something present in competitor's products--then I don't have a problem with it as a customer focus issue, as long as the software quickly tells me it doesn't do "X" or provides me a way to determine that it can't do "X" (and better yet, is proactive about telling me that it doesn't do "X" and tells me why).
Whether or not it does "X" then just boils down to a feature implementation decision, and a company can have legitimate reasons for allowing or not allowing "X".
I can't speak to the specifics of your Quicktime download folder issue, but if Apple made it easy for you to figure out that you cannot move your Quicktime download folder, then it's certainly a nuisance/disappointment, but that's where it ends. On the other hand, if Apple didn't make it easy for you to determine whether or not you could accomplish this task, then it descends into what I consider to be far worse--a frustration, aggravation, and more to the point, a time-waster.
(I'm curious how much time it took you to determine whether you could accomplish the task or not.)
What drives me crazy is when task "X" is a reasonable thing for a user to want to do, but the software either (1) doesn't acknowledge through the interface that the user rightly would want to do "X", (2) doesn't make it clear whether "X" can be done at all, (3) provides and environment where it appears to allow "X", but actually doesn't, (4) makes it very difficult to figure out how to do "X", (5) provides a method of doing "X" that is inconsistent with the overall software look-and-feel, so that it takes much longer to do "X" than it should, etc.
The bottom line for me is this. I can tolerate when a piece of technology doesn't allow me to do "X". I am intolerant of technology that wastes my time as I either (1) try to figure out whether I can do "X", or (2) actually accomplish "X".
So, this explains why I, like some other posters here, can respect the limitations of a "closed" technology; it may be closed, and not allow you to accomplish everything that you want to do, but what it does allow you to do, you can do *very efficiently*.
And as far as I'm concerned, technologies designed for user efficiency show respect for the user; inefficient technologies do not.
My impression and experience has been that--generally speaking, though there are obviously plenty of individual exceptions to be found--Apple technologies show more respect of this kind of efficiency than those from Microsoft.
Again, I'm not interested in an Apple vs. Microsoft flame war...I'm just trying to clarify the basis for my earlier comments that were more positive toward Apple than Microsoft.