dtravs :
but my hdmi cable still needs to connect with kitchen tv from reciever then branch out off of that to my other tv. its like i need my original hdmi cable needs to plug in reciever. like it does now, then split before it connects to kitchen tv
What your talking doesn't seem posible, from what i'm getting you want the direct tv box to plug into your kitchen tv, then have the TV broadcast the direct tv link to your other tv? If this is what you mean there is no way to do this since its a tv and doesn't have routing functions. Not even sure a smart tv can do that.
What i was trying to explain was to have this thing:
HDMI Splitter
Direct TV HDMI To the IN slot on the splitter than have ONE of the OUTS to the kitchen TV then the remaining OUT the hdmi to coax adapter out to your outside tv.